My kids have this book called "It's not fair". It's really cute and show's just how silly arguments can be when you think something isn't fair. They actually love for me to read it to them.
Why'd I get the smaller half?
Why'd he get the bigger laugh?
Why can't I have a pet giraffe?
It's not fair!
Why can't I have curly locks?
Why can't I have my own box?
Why now chicken pox?!
It's not fair!
You get to stay up late? I have to go to bed at 8!
They said they would, but they didn't wait.
It's not fair!
Why don't you yell at her?
Hey! It was my turn to stir!
I don't know it's all a blur!
It's not fair!!
Why does she get new shoes?
Why does my team always lose?
It's not FAIR!!!
...and the book goes on. You can actually watch the whole thing here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoSUnJqJ7Yw
The arguments coupled with the pictures seem so obvious that the claims these kids are making are just silly. Of course your team doesn't ALWAYS lose. Of course you can't have a pet giraffe!
But as an adult we can get caught up into this "It's not fair" game too. I am so guilty of it myself.
Why is their house bigger than ours?
Why does he seem to make so much money and not really work that hard?
Why do their kids get all the good grades? They don't even try as hard as my kids.
Why did his kid make the rep team?
Why are they still together? I worked harder at my marriage than she does...
And the ones I myself get caught into:
Why can't my child struggle less? Why does my child have to have this dreadful diagnosis? Why can't my kid sleep soundly through the night without these awful seizures? Why do I have to be the only one of my friends who has a kid who is "different"?
IT'S NOT FAIR.
I found my pregnancy journal tonight. As I read through it, I started to tear up. At the end of EVERY entry I wrote, "grow healthy and strong baby. Mommy will meet you soon!"
All I have ever wanted for any of my children was for them to be healthy. And I worried about it. With every pregnancy. Every single piece of ANYTHING that went into my mouth was considered for it's nutritional value. I'm not saying I was perfect. But I considered everything. Down to not chewing gum because I couldn't find gum without aspartame in it.
Why'd I have the kid with ASD?
Why can't he be healthy and free?
IT'S NOT FAIR.
Seizures keep us awake at night,
Every step ahead is always a fight.
IT'S NOT FAIR.
Every spare moment spent looking for a cure,
Is what you're doing right? You're never sure.
Only thing you really know, is your love is so pure.
It's not fair.
